Fellas, compliment her on all little things that you like about her & notice ..eventually, she’ll give you her ear & attention…and for goodness sake, whatever you do…always be ready to SPEAK up!!
I listened to all of the little things, he brought to my attention & was surprisingly, embarrassed when he reminded me, of how long he’d been waiting to get my undivided attention…over a year.
Refusing to “accept” my arrogance in that moment, I came up with an excuse and said,” I’ve talked to you more than once in the past year, what are you talking about?”
He responded, “Trina, you’ve gotten into conversations with me several times but other guys interrupt & pull your attention away….& since YOU, let them …I say, “She’s not ready yet & walk away.”
I thought on what he said a little more the next day and decided, to give him a call…
“Hey, it’s me. What did you mean by I’m not ready yet..ready for what? “
He responds, “I knew your situation & was waiting to approach you but felt it wasn’t really my place to stop others from interrupting us because when you’re interested, it shows. I took it as, she’s not interested in just me yet.”
I reflect quickly..playing back all encounters, then, I tell him that I didn’t really think on it that way..acknowledging that it in hindsight, I could count numerous subtle attempts to get my attention. I was going through a divorce..of course, I didn’t take his attempts to get my attention, serious.
Finally, I admit to him (& myself),…
“You were right..I don’t pay things mind until I’m interested but see how your persistence pays off & how things can change? Well, I’m single again, you’ve got my attention now, shoot your shot!” It was up to him to speak up or fall back. Since I am assertive, I don’t stop long for anyone that drags their feet. Closed mouths, don’t get fed. (slang).
Message to all the Fellas:
“Slow & Steady wins the race…!! Persistence pays off.
Please believe it! Slang.
Y’all gotta always be ready to “spit” your Game…Fellas, ya, never know!
Update—How about I later found out, that guy was 17 years younger! Wow, but me still moving like a Megastar said, “Let me see what this man is about …If the bs comes, I’m out.” So, he spit his game and long story short, that guy, became, my second husband. I don’t ask permission guys, I do what I want…that bothers people afraid of life but oh well, that’s on them. I do, ME.
Life has taught me, through much pain and tribulation: “To make my own rules.” I’m not afraid of being single, being married or being divorced…. And, I’ve been all three. Guess what? I’m not afraid of becoming, any of the three again, should I, deem it necessary. I do what works for me, until it doesn’t anymore. Stop letting society, define you. Just be, authentically, you. Do you but always, Stand in your truth. Read the article, “Unapologetically You” click link here, https://triddykatsmeow.com/unapologetically-you
My attitude: “If things work out, cool. If they don’t, that’s cool too, it’s just another, life lesson.”
It’s life, I can’t be afraid of my failures or success, y’all. It’s all to teach me more, about myself. I take calculated risks and change, what I don’t like …And, no matter what, I always, “DO ME!” …and, hopefully, You guys, do that too.
*This was originally, written and created by, “Triddy Kat” on May 26, 2018.
Keep shining.
~Triddy Kat💋
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