Unfair

Nicki Minaj states it best, when she says, “No, I’m not lucky, I’m Blessed.” …and another thing in common with trendsetters …we were all raised and grew up in Jamaica, Queens. “Around the way”..we believe getting it, is nice but maintaining it, is even better.

This picture of me, (yes, that’s all my real hair) one of my many different looks…symbolizes me going through a Spiritual Warfare that many don’t really recognize, when it comes in this form…so my bright, fiery, red hair here, captured a very significant period and ferocious battle in my life..When I had to fight like hell, to keep my passion alive cause unfair treatment and others, were covertly trying to drain me of my passion, essence, life-force and my gifts, my drive…but as we say in the hood, “Never that.“

I take lemons and make lemonade. “I STEP outside the Box”…I let no one define Me. Ever.

I was wearing my hair like this going through major systemic abuse and I still kept it pushing ..I took it on the chin. The red hair represented having the heart to still do and be ME, while facing adversity. I had no time to cry or be sad. I had way too much depending on me…so I sucked it up …got back in the ring. This wasn’t the first time, I’d been knocked out by life being unfair to me, so I brushed it off…soothed my ego and got back up and fought again. That’s what you must learn to do ..Unfair things will happen, people will unfairly accuse you or lie on you, team up against or misjudge you. Stop explaining, fools believe the worst about you without solid evidence because they wanted to. Who cares? Bump them, just keep doing you. You still have to get back up and get back in the ring. Fight hard but master how you will hit back hardest.

During this time, I remember gaining weight, etc.I mean I couldn’t fit anything to go to work in or needed a ride, things like that are a part of the fight too. Murphy’s Law, everything that can go wrong, goes wrong all at once. Learn to deal with it. So, I talked to a colleague about it and the Universe used them to bring me a cute dress, etc. or give me a ride, whatever I needed, so “I was still on point” during the stressful, unfair ordeal. Notice, I didn’t say, “The Universe stopped me from going through it” instead, I told you that “I went through it” with some sort of support from some very unlikely places.

My question to you all reading this is, “Do you now how to humble yourself and tell others what’s going on with you?” Don’t play victim, you are not always innocent in everything, so lose that victim mentality. Life happens to all. Get out of your feelings and speak up and talk to others. New Yorkers believe and are raised on this saying, “Closed mouths, don’t get fed!” Speak up. Tell others you need help…even your enemies will look out for you. Heck, some of them will actually have more compassion on you faster than family and friends. Don’t ever limit Spirit. This is what it means: “Thou prepareth a table for me, in the presence of thy enemies.” Relax and know even your enemies will bless you. You don’t truly know what people think of you, so when the Universe sends help just receive it graciously. Stand in your truth. Let go of pride, you never know who Source will touch to make sure that you’re okay. Your job is just to be open and receive it.

Some people get too fly to ask for help but not you…if you are like me, you will never forget how to “Get it out the mud” (Lil’ Baby). I did what I had to. I was literally going to work, beefing with corrupt officials, while they’re laughing their butts off, abusing their power over me and putting me in the street. In Georgia, they put your stuff on the curb, literally, when you’re evicted. I kept right on doing what I had to, pulled up to work, stressed out (but never letting them see me, sweat) and went to teach Elementary and Middle School, literally, legally homeless daily…How’s that for Getting It Out the Mud? Only the strong survive so I kept doing what I could, with what I could. Life will hand you and even place you in “unfair” situations…it’s ok to cry but don’t you dare quit. Square up, so you can drop whom you have to.

Don’t spend time trying to fight the foolish, step aside and if they continue their foolishness, leave the fools behind. I depart from idiots. I used to argue trying to prove my point, bump them. Now it’s, “I said what I said. Y’all knew that mess didn’t sound like me…yet, you still listened to the liars, bye. All of y’all can kiss my ass, I’m out!”

You have to know when you’re dealing with people who lack integrity, they will do anything (hence: they lack integrity). You just showing up, stirs their inner demons. You walking in your truth bothers them because they’re not free from what they refuse to conquer. Why waste your time on them? “Karma never forgets an address.” Move on. Don’t get caught up in wishing bad on them. Pray for your enemies and leave it there. Sure, I was angry seems like I was treated unfair all of my life. Yet, I stand my ground and leave toxic people behind. If there is no resolution, I cut the foolishness off and don’t look back because it’s a contrite spirit manifesting in that person(s),place or situation. Dead it. Take your energy out of that. Again, who cares? Focus, place and use your energy on you.

I have been through things people still don’t believe, when I tell them…and guess what? I could careless. I still do me in whatever circumstances, I have been pushed into. Life is good and it’s also, unfair, too. Take the good with the bad. Learn to use whatever tools you have available at the time..they’re necessary to help you, keep doing you. I rocked that red hair to remind me of the Warrior within me. I’m usually very sweet but I will give you exactly what you are in need of, should one come the wrong way. Sweet, doesn’t equate stupid. You will respect my gangster. Choose your battles wisely. Some are trying to compete, where they don’t even compare. It’s like another: Queens, New York native, Roxanne Shante said, “Tell those girls, they sound like cats!”

Most people don’t even know who they are, so what are you doing tangling with the rift-raft? They’re still needing to be taught and are in need of learning. You can see it in how they treat others. Again, who cares? That’s on them, not you. Leave it with them. Tough times don’t last always and the real, know how to get it, wherever they live.

The picture below was not even two years ago. It’s a reminder of my inner STRENGTH and PASSION...& the HEART of a Lion.

A message to all reading this, stop giving up..”Square up and stop being a Spiritual Chump.” DO YOU, no matter what. Stand toe to toe with those hell bent on breaking you. They won’t but know when to walk away, if Spirit says, “That’s enough, leave it. I will fight for you now.” Master perseverance and belief in SELF. I kept doing me, even in the midst of all the unfair bull crap, being thrown my way. Who are you going to tell when the bullies are the people in charge? I went to Source and left it there. Do You …knowing, no one can stop you. Shine on. Stop looking at trying times as the end, things will change but until they do…learn to adapt.Evolve.

When life is unfair…”Get it out the mud.” That doesn’t mean you are to go out and lie, cheat or steal …stay in integrity, use your intelligence to co-create with Divine Intelligence and make your own way, out of no way. Sometimes, knowing no one is coming to save you, will save YOU.

Remember these curls, y’all? Yes. the Shirley Temples..I love it, a guy did this for me. Make that lemonade with whatever it is that you still have until the enemy is forced to return all of your stuff. You’ve got bigger and better to do. Focus your energy on, what it is, you’re after. You couldn’t tell what I was going through unless I told you. Life happens. Accept that.

Hold you head up, do you… you’re stronger than you think. Laugh at the Unfair and unjust. You will survive this too. Justice is coming, when you least expect it..until then, enjoy life while you roll up those sleeves and get it out the mud. Of course, it’s not fun but Life is unfair. Yet; it’s also very beautiful and a GIFT, don’t forget that. Let no one suppress you…express yourself and Handle the Unfair, like a G!! Updated 2/3/23

Keep shining.

~Triddy Kat💋

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